Couple therapy and relationship dynamics

Many people long for a fulfilling and stable partnership, but relationships often bring challenges. Our early attachment experiences unconsciously shape our relationships today and can lead to recurring conflicts. These conflicts are often an expression of old emotional wounds that show up in our current relationships. These dynamics can lead to misunderstandings, frustration and distance if they are not recognized and dealt with.

Instead of blaming your partner for your own pain, a crisis can be seen as an opportunity for personal development. The partner often reflects unresolved inner issues that are triggered by certain behaviors or statements. By understanding these signals as indications of our own inner conflicts, we can learn to act with more awareness and empathy in the relationship.

With the help of the systemic approach, couples can understand their relationship patterns in a wider context. Systemic methods help to adopt new perspectives, recognize relationship dynamics and jointly develop solutions that enable sustainable change. A holistic view of the partnership can lead to a deeper connection and mutual understanding.

The social panorama is another valuable method in couples therapy. It helps to make inner images of relationships and social structures visible and to make targeted changes. It is often unconscious perceptions about ourselves and our partner that influence our behavior. By consciously reshaping these inner images, couples can positively transform their relationship and find new ways of working together.

The Internal Family System (IFS) builds on this approach by looking at the different inner parts as parts of a larger system. It supports couples in recognizing their own wounded or protective parts and understanding how these unconsciously influence the dynamics of the relationship. By dealing consciously and compassionately with these inner parts, couples can develop more understanding for each other and take their relationship to a new level.

I also integrate the concept of elevated mood, inspired by Jens Corssen. This method supports couples in developing a conscious inner attitude of serenity, optimism and self-management. Instead of blaming external circumstances or the partner, both learn to control their own emotional response and take responsibility for their experience. This not only strengthens their own personality, but also the relationship and leads to more harmony and stability.

By combining these methods, I support couples individually in becoming more aware of their relationship dynamics, recognizing obstructive patterns and strengthening their shared connection. With more mindfulness, clarity and mutual understanding, the partnership can be elevated to a deeper, more fulfilling level.

Couples therapy can take place both in the office and online.

Feel free to get in touch if you are ready to shape your relationship more consciously and explore new paths together!